In today’s world, people seem less willing to accept differing viewpoints. Even when presented with facts, personal agendas can overshadow rational thought. It feels like anger and emotion dominate, leaving little room for understanding someone else’s perspective or finding common ground.
While I’m not perfect in this regard, I strive to keep an open mind. The recent years of political debate have been exhausting—for many, I’m sure. Please turn on the TV or scroll through social media, and it’s all character attacks, lies, and clipped sound bites. Who has the energy to fact-check everything? Certainly not me!
But there was a glimmer of hope recently. During the last Vice Presidential debate, I saw something we haven’t seen much of lately—civility. It reminded me that real discussion, where we genuinely listen to one another, isn’t lost. Perhaps we all need a reminder of what good communication looks like—and how it could benefit our everyday lives, even if we may not see eye to eye.
So, think about your last disagreement and consider these healthy habits for communication:
- Listen actively and sincerely. Did you maintain eye contact or interrupt the other person? What emotion are they conveying in their words and tone? Validate that… it’s hard to foster open dialogue when everyone is on edge.
- Listen to understand, not just to respond. What is important to the other person? What is their perspective? What do they want you to know?
- Ask good questions. Dig deeper into their viewpoint. How did they arrive at this opinion?
- Acknowledge common ground. Look for beliefs or viewpoints you have in common. What are the details you do agree on? Where do your two separate perspectives overlap? This is the common ground. The parts that you have in common with each other.
- Present your view calmly and factually. Focus on the issue, not the person. When frustration creeps in, take a deep breath—they feel it too. Relax – have a conversation, not a debate.
- Agree to disagree. Not every conversation needs a resolution. Don’t compromise your beliefs, but express your concerns respectfully. The goal is to walk away with new insights, not a win.
Life is complicated, and everyone’s experiences are different. We can learn from one another by showing patience and truly listening. None of us has all the answers, and most solutions come with their own set of challenges.
It can feel like so much is at stake in this politically charged season. However, regardless of the outcome, Birthright St. Charles will continue supporting women. Whether facing an unexpected pregnancy, postpartum struggles, or loss—including post-abortion recovery—Birthright remains a safe space filled with caring volunteers and skilled counselors who are ready to listen.
