The first moment you see two lines indicating a positive pregnancy test can bring on a flood of emotions and questions, such as: “Why me?”, “How can I or we do this?”, “What am I supposed to do now?” or even, “There’s no way.”
You may feel fear, anxiety, panic or disbelief. Learning of or even suspecting a pregnancy that was not planned can be a major source of mental and emotional upheaval. For many women, facing the reality of an unplanned pregnancy can result in entering crisis mode and feeling immense pressure to make an immediate decision about what to do next.
Abortion may feel like a logical option to consider.
It’s Important To Slow Down
If you or someone you love is feeling overwhelmed by an unplanned pregnancy and is considering an abortion, the first step is to pause.
Take a breath.
While your first inclination may be to rush into a decision, know that, despite how you feel, you have time. The reality of this pregnancy is part of your life story. Allow yourself the time to process this reality before making a final decision. There are resources available to help you make the decision that will ultimately be the best one for you; decided by you.
As a counselor and licensed clinical social worker—skilled and trained in gathering information, assessing needs, providing empathetic listening as well as working together for solutions—and a mother of three children, two of whom were not planned, I have only compassion for women who find themselves pregnant and overwhelmed by that fact.
Understand What Options Are Available To You
If you’re considering an abortion or are not even sure what options you have, here are a few simple steps you can take to allow yourself the time and space you deserve to find the answers and support you deserve:
- Have your pregnancy confirmed with a medical grade test, such as those offered at Birthright.
- Speak with a trusted source, such as a licensed counselor, friend, or safe adult who will keep your best interests in mind
- Learn about all of your options and consider the impact of your choice beyond “right now” as well as on those around you
- Find a support network and learn more about the resources available
- Know that you are not alone
At Birthright St. Charles we can help sort out the emotions you’re feeling and answer any questions you may have. You can discuss all of your options with a trained professional in a comfortable and judgement free environment.
You will be given what you may not feel like you have in this moment—the time and space to consider everything that you’re dealing with alongside someone who cares for you and who can ultimately help equip you to make decisions about your future from a place of calm rather than crisis.